Why do not we just stay with the truth when we say something. This certainly has many reasons, sometimes even honorable. In fact, our children grow up already with falsehoods. There are parents who spread these falsehoods. Parents are role models and really should not do that, but they do it. Send the Tooth Fairy, the Christ Child, the Easter Bunny and more.
Why do we lie and how to detect lies. People lie, but why? The reasons for the lies may have different causes, but the effect remains the same. If you were once lied, then you lose the trust in that person, and the person always lies through tests on the sample.
We do not always need to take a lie detection test to know if someone is lying. Lied not only situational, it is partly a component of different cultures or even is good form. For example, if you hit one of his customers in the theater and you make a compliment about her looks, despite its gaudy outfits.
In the UK, you're basically "fine" when asked "How are you?". In some Far Eastern cultures the boss is basically lied when something went wrong. It is always exactly tell him what he wants to hear, and which corresponds in most cases the truth.
Recent scandals over the theses of now retired politicians acknowledge that is a lie in all social classes. Even when the sexes seems to be little difference. How often do we lie depends on the personality and personal lifestyle. The famous 200 times a day are not always true; Someone could even call it a lie that number. Ask yourself once himself to the test and take a lie detection test. Write down when and why you have lied.
Here are some reasons for lying:
Fearing such as fear of loss
For lack of time or other hardships out (white lie!)
Under social or psychological pressure
Consideration for the feelings of other
If you have to justify itself and to avoid consequences
If you believe an American study by Robert Feldman of the University of Massachusetts, which was carried out with 121 students, then we lie in a brief conversation of approximately 10 minutes duration about 2.9 times, especially when we want to impress others. It did not matter whether the people were male or female, or whether they will see their conversation partner again or not.
Feldmann concluded that there is no typical personality lies, but rather a typical liar environment. Performance pressure is the most important step. Who needs to justify itself and prove which is more fibbing and cheat as someone who has both feet in life and no one has to prove something. Feldmann has found that rather fib among 18- to 34-year-old than for seniors.
In schools and universities notes are now often surreptitiously disproportionate. Consider, once the Web how many sites there are that give advice or instructions for spiking or even publish test results.
How can you tell lies? - The body does not lie!
Ever since "Lie to me" we know that lies be reflected in the body language. Verbal so we can apply no matter how thick, our body speaks for itself, however. Here are some examples:
When a person is lying, then he will avoid direct eye contact. Whoever it is, however, that he does not lie, because he can give you the eyes look, then he's lying almost certainly
A liar, whose voice is most easily collected and louder than normal. Even that person then tends to change the subject
Who is lying, which engages more often in the face, the neck or mouth. They scratch their nose and ear
Who is lying, talking mostly more than normal and differs in minor details. Pauses are avoided as the interlocutor then ask questions and the lie might be uncovered. Even jokes or sarcastic remarks are often made.
The emotional support for the statement occurs, if at all, only after a delay and then unnaturally long, to then come to an abrupt end. Words and emotions do not mix.
A liar used to answer a question often the same words as the questioner. The question "Have you taken the record from my closet?" is likely answered with "No, I did not take the file from your cupboard" while a person who is telling the truth would likely respond "I? No! What file?" Such a short and spontaneous statement rather indicates the truth.
Ask the person from whom you think that she's lying, to the test. Change the subject abruptly. If the person is a liar, then they will follow you willingly. Someone who did not lie, will be surprised by the rapid change of subject and rather express this or even come back to the topic.
Who is lying, gesturing and more exaggerated. These gestures to underline the credibility of the statement faked
Also nervousness indicates a lie. Who constantly moves during a conversation by the hair or the feet can not keep silent, occurs from one foot to the other and while sitting the feet can not keep on the ground, who tells probably yarn. This restlessness signaled really only that want to escape the lügende person the situation (flight instinct).
The pitch at lying is often rather monotonous and the usual singsong is missing. It's an uncertainty that occurs as the liar does not know whether you will relieve him of his story or not. Often the tone with drooping shoulders and lowered head goes hand in hand. Be careful when someone the words "honest" or "trust me" used to prove its credibility.